Habits

Over the years, I have read many books on habits and behavior. Basically, if you want to set good habits, you should continue to do the same task for a certain amount of time. Usually, the time suggested is a few weeks. So if you want to be fit, get up at a certain time each day and go for a run/walk. 

I am great at following a schedule and have cultivated several positive habits. I try to exercise at least few times a week. I eat well. I try to get enough sleep. What I realized though, is that habitual activities only work under normal circumstances. When I am busy or stressed, I throw out the two most important habits: sleep and exercise. I survive weeks with only 4 hours of sleep (turning into a zombie in the process) and become a couch potato. Procrastination and excuses are easy when you have other priorities. 

The good news is that I finally got enough sleep last night. My phone was switched off and I was able to put my insomniac self to rest. I also managed to fit in a yoga class in my schedule. I was back in the studio after weeks, so was super out of balance. During the tree pose, I looked like an unstable shrub. Doing Suryanamaskar was a challenge and I struggled at times. But I made it to the end of the class and the calmness stayed with me throughout the day.

Just hope I can keep these habits up!

Back to School!

I just attended a two-day course to TRY to learn a new skill. What interested me more than the actual content of the workshop were the side-perks or the additional learning from the experience. 

Some of my realizations are as follows:

• -          Inability to be a true student

I am not sure if age is the culprit, but I found it hard to concentrate during some parts of the course. I was a nerd back in high school/college and was always stationed at the front desk during lectures. But this time, I was yawning away and overdosing on coffee. It hit me that work allows us to do short bursts of activity and that’s what I have become accustomed to. Boredom also seemed to creep in when the instructor was not engaging the class. When we had team activities and immersions, people were charged up. The fun aspect helped us internalize the content better. But when it was just plain old theories, people lost interest. It was a realization that speakers & teachers need to work extra hard to keep the connection to the audience.

• -          Dependence on tech gadgets

We were not allowed to use our phones and laptops during the workshop, except during breaks. This was PURE TORTURE!! I hadn’t realized how hard it is to control our automated behavior – to swipe our smartphone and ‘be connected’. Not being able to browse websites and check emails/social media sites were probably the causes for the boredom. When we did get breaks, what did people do? Did they talk to their neighbors, network or discuss ideas? NO!!! Everyone immediately opened their smartphone or tech gadget and had their fill. Nobody takes cigarette breaks anymore; Facebook has become the smoking break for the general population.

• -          Gratitude for disruptive ideas

Being a new driver, I prefer using Uber to navigating unknown/far places myself. Esp. when public transportation is not available, Uber is the best option. It is a pain to call cabs, they are inefficient and expensive. Uber has solved so many problems of people like me. I can relax and get to my destination, I already know the cost/time and I can track it. So, while taking Uber, I thought about disruptive technologies and how our lives have changed because of them. Some people had the courage to think outside the box and create something different. This changed the entire dynamics of the industry. 

Of tattoos & things!

When I was 18, I went to a tattoo parlor to get inked. I wanted my boyfriend's name and he refused (saying that it was bad luck). I browsed through the catalog, but couldn't pick any that I liked. Over the years, I have done an extensive research on tattoos around the world. Still, no luck.

FINALLY, I did decide on something that I am happy to look at everyday. It is small, personal and has a meaning for me.

My father died when I was in high school. Our world fell apart into a thousand pieces and my family has since been picking up the pieces. It has been ages, but life still feels incomplete. I am so blessed in my life, but I could trade all that in a heartbeat to go back and have my dad with us.

As I grow older, I have come to a harsh realization. I remember him less and less each year; his little quirks, how he used to speak, how he used to behave. His memories are slowly becoming a blur…..and it scares me! Not only just because I am forgetting my dad, but because I am forgetting my past. I am forgetting the person I was before I became the person I am today. Change is normally a good thing, but sometimes you need to hold on to the familiar things.

That’s when the idea of a tattoo came back. I WANTED, no NEEDED a reminder of life and love. The people in your life might not be there tomorrow, but the love will ALWAYS be there. The infinity symbol signifies eternity. The letters on the bottom of the infinity read ‘Prem’. It’s my dad’s name – both our names have the same meaning – LOVE.

So, my tattoo basically means ‘ETERNAL LOVE. It’s a small ode to my dad. My first love might have been lost, but lives for eternity within me.   

Lessons from 'The Lion King'

Yesterday, I went to watch 'the Lion King' at the Minskoff Theatre in New York City. This Broadway show had been on my wish list for a while and I am so glad I got to watch it. It was a visual treat; the colorful costumes, extravagant sets and exotic music added to the magical experience.

There were a few takeaways for me from the show:

1. Hakuna Matata

This Swahili phrase means 'don't worry, be happy'. It is such a simple notion, yet we always forget it. We're so busy in our rat race that taking a chill pill seems impossible. We're running after a good education, a good job, a good life...and forget that sometimes, the journey is more important than the destination. We forget how to enjoy the ride..and we forget to count our blessings. This saying reminded me that I need to stop, take a step back and be grateful for what I have. It also helped me remember that certain things in life are beyond my control and that I shouldn't waste my energy worrying about them. I should try to do the best with the things I DO have control over.

2. Your past will always be there; you can either run from it or learn from it.

If you don't know the story of the Lion King, it is about the lion cub Simba. He runs away from home since he thinks he is responsible for his father's death. Eventually, he comes to his senses and comes back to reclaim his rightful throne and home. What keeps him away for so long? Fear, embarrassment, doubt..

In our attempt to create a beautiful future, we sometimes try to alienate our past and dissociate from it. I know I did at times! But what we fail to realize is that we are a sum total of our past experiences, emotions and energies. Our mistakes and our failures make us who and what we are. If we stop running from our past and let it teach us valuable lessons, we will emerge stronger & better than before.

So, relax and enjoy the present!