A few years ago, a friend of mine
invited me for a movie. When I reached the mall, she handed me her kid and
proceeded to the movie with her husband. I was in shock!!! I thought I probably
misunderstood her and let it go. But when such incidents kept happening, it was
clear that she didn’t see me as a FRIEND but as a BABYSITTER! If she were
upfront with me and asked for help, I would readily do anything for her.
Here’s the
bitter truth. There WILL be folks who will disrespect you, walk all over you and
treat you like a commodity. There WILL be toxic people that will suck out the
very air you breathe. There WILL be so called friends that will ALWAYS laugh AT
you but never WITH you. There WILL be those that will make you feel like you
are not worthy of LOVE, FRIENDSHIP and HAPPINESS.
The reason I put
importance on this mantra is as follows: Unless you let go of these negative people,
you can NEVER move forward and reclaim your self-esteem and happiness. Unless
you realize that such failures are inevitable, you will stay stuck in the
vicious cycle of self-doubt and misery. My suggestion to you is this: Cut your
losses and break free from the people that bring you down. Be open to feedback
and listen to people when they point out your weaknesses and flaws. But if ALL
they do is focus on your shortcomings, walk away. NOW!
We invest a lot
of time and emotions in friendships. Sometimes, the investment and the foolish
hope that people will change is what makes us stay. However, it is wiser to
consider FAILED FRIENDSHIPS as a sunk cost and move on. The other alternative
is to pay a monthly payment of your dignity and joy. You choose what you
prefer!
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